#YesAllWomen recognize the need to be heard.

…and still another amazing reply to http://goo.gl/evFFqt

pumpkinface6 hours ago

Acting happens outside of the media bubble. The twitter thing is testament to the power of communication. It is obvious that people like to share, to feel part of something, however vague or meaningless and tenuous the link of hashtags and ebullient messages and pictures might be to our reality. Those who act, act. Those who like talking, talk. Why the sanctimony? People are engaging on some level, and besides, what about all those old-school feminists who for years besmirched the misappropriation of *feminism* and the rise of lipstick feminists and general trivia of narcissistic media careerists who parade their feministic wares…..

All the sanctimony is pointless. People share. Let them. It’s silly to single women out for doing twitter wrong. If you want to support women, why not be patient with some of them? Especially online. This creates an air of tolerance, not mutual hostility.

Yes, all of this seems like hysteria. It has almost zero to do with practical support for women in their daily lives, and addressing key social and economic factors of inequality. Real people do those jobs. We take the time to listen, understand and support. That’s the serious and unsexy part of many people’s daily lives. It’s happening. This is a media storm. If people want to feel part of it, let them. Those of us who actually support women in the three dimensional universe understand that need. Women–and people in general–are vulnerable in our world, so when they share online, a lot of them do so meaningfully.

Less castigating and more kindness & patience please. We all need this. Everyone does. It opens up real space online and in people’s minds for meaningful communication to effectively take place. If you are smarter, be mature enough to be more patient

 

#YesAllWomen well explained

Another amazing response to http://goo.gl/evFFqt
Frost_Byte2 hours ago

I don’t think the author fully understands the #YesAllWomen origin as it relates to Rodger. I think more investigation on her part is in order.

First, people cried “Misogyny!” after reading the manifesto. Well, it is pretty misogynistic so it is hard to blame them there.

Then 2 things happened:

1) the men cried #NotAllMen! Meaning not all men agreed with the manifesto and were not such horrible people

2) horrible fan pages went up agreeing with the manifesto and it didn’t seem as if they were a joke

Women (and men too!) then shouted out with the hash tag #YesAllWomen to say a few things:

1) Subtly agree that not all men are violent sexist pigs (because then it would be #YesAllMen)

2) There are enough men out there that agree with the manifesto (maybe not to the point of shooting people) that make our lives miserable on a daily basis and their fellow men who might not agree with them don’t do anything about it. When women complain about it, we either get told that it is in our imagination or it is a rare occurrence. This hash tag is showing that these incidents are neither and we’re sick of being told to stop whining.

Expecting ALL posts with #YesAllWomen to conform to this is unrealistic.

If you want to criticize anyone, just read the replies on Twitter to the women who post to the hash tag. They are violent, hateful and downright scary. They include rape and death threats.

Why isn’t anyone re-posting those??

Those posts prove why this movement is needed and make that connection between men in our everyday lives to Rodger’s manifesto. These posts make our fear real. I dare you to write about that. You don’t even have to make anything up. It is there on the Internet forever.

If You Hate #YesAllWomen, It’s Not for You.


@Dontmakemelaugh on Daily Beast responded to my last post;

Dontmakemelaugh13 hours ago

@poetista I am still mystified as to why anyone would want to personalize the actions of an extreme deviant unless they want to wallow in fear and diminish themselves.

 My reply;

When you say you are mystified, I think you are saying you don’t understand — that you don’t understand to such a degree that you can’t even find a little piece of the #YesAllWomen phenomenon that you can hold onto as you puzzle through the rest of it.

If that is the case, then many people have failed you so far in your education. That is not a slur on you — I am sincere. Critical thinking skills are not taught in schools now. It’s quite possible that you haven’t yet had any opportunity to learn them.

It’s also possible that you have lived a wonderful life — I hope that is true. It would be nice to know that there are a few women who have lived blissfully untouched by misogyny.

Most people participating in the global conversation at #YesAllWomen understand the phenomenon of the constant tearing-down of women that misogyny causes by either a) using critical thinking skills when reading the posts or b) empathetic identification by either their own experiences or the experiences of women close to them.

If you are mystified and you want to understand #YesAllWomen, you might find a friend who either has mastered critical thinking — a Humanities scholar such as an English or History professor, a Women’s Studies professor, a Culture or Ethnic Studies professor — and ask them to take you through some of the posts and explain the underlying logic of the conversation.

If you want to understand #YesAllWomen through empathy, you’ll need to find a way to identify with these women and what they’re saying. That requires that you have a personal connection to someone who has been through these kinds of experiences, someone you care about — but it also requires that that person has worked her way through the grief, shame, and pain of her experience enough to be able to tell her story.

I wish I could help you. If you want to communicate with me, make a temporary email address and post it here and I can send you my email address.

I will repeat my earlier point, though: The fact that some people don’t understand #YesAllWomen doesn’t mean that it lacks meaning, that it should stop, that what people are posting there lacks relevance, or anything else. The only conclusion a person can draw from “I don’t understand” is “therefore I have no basis for critiquing this.”

If I asked to you sit down now and write a short essay critiquing the importance of Josephine Baker, you might reply “I have no idea who she is” and I might show you some historical documentation of her work, including testimonials from people who were there and saw her. You might look at the material in bewilderment and say “I just don’t get this. Why would anyone like this? Why she even do this?” In that case, your essay would contain your name, the title “My Critique of Josephine Baker”, and the words “I know very little about her work and do not understand its value.” And I would give you an A+ (and, if you were my student, I’d assign you another topic).

It’s okay that you don’t understand. It’s okay that the attention #YesAllWomen is getting annoys people who don’t understand — although I don’t think you meant to say that you were annoyed, the author of the article above implies she finds it annoying by finding a couple of irrelevant posts and declaring that #YesAllWomen has become irrelevant by using an outdated cliche that has itself done what it accuses that to which it is applied to have done. Yes, Author, that was a critique of the title and weak evidence you concocted for your baseless article.

I got to hang out with Iced-T when he was signing his first record deal at PolyGram Records. Rap was just starting to happen. I saw him interviewed by one of the original MTV hosts, who asked him, “What’s up with rap? It isn’t even music. I don’t get it.” Iced-T gave the man a deadeye look and said, “It’s not for you.” The host sputtered, “What?” Iced-T repeated, “It’s not for you. We make rap music for us. Some people like it, they play it, they buy it.” Shrug. “It’s not for you.” Then Iced-T gave the host that deadeye look again and the host cut the interview off.

So, #YesAllWomen might not be for you. If it isn’t then, move along to something you care about. We won’t stop posting. We won’t shut up.

 

 

#YesAllWomen Won’t Shut Up

In response to http://goo.gl/evFFqt, in which a journalist who doesn’t understand the #YesAllWomen conversation at all proceeds to dismiss, diminish, and deny the impact and relevance of the world-changing speaking-truth-to-power happening at a breakneck speed:

poetista 15 hours ago
You are missing the point entirely. The point is #YesAllWomen (experience a never-ending onslaught of micro- and macro-aggressions from misogynists [some of whom are other women]). Including the micro-aggressions and subtle but relentless shaping behaviors (Smile!) uncovers the biggest secret that All Women know. The misogynist doesn’t have to hit you to abuse you. Equal (or maybe even more) damage is done by the stream of shoves and pinches and leers and sneers and ignoring and shaming…you can fill in the rest.

#YesAllWomen have had experiences that frightened, diminished, and silenced them. #YesAllWomen are telling the truth and we won’t shut up — no matter how mystified you are, no matter how many twitterists deny-dismiss-diminish what we say, no matter how horrified our followers are when they hear the truth about our lives. We won’t shut up.

Customizing Social Media Icons: Step 1

Custom design element for use with social media icons Custom-designed element for use to distinguish social media icons

 

This rosette was designed as visual logo for the client. I opened the full-size file in Photoshop and saved the file under the name “socialmediaicons.psd”. Then I closed the original file and opened the new file.
I reduced the size of the rosette to 75×75 pixels. This is a good size for the master psd. file, because Photoshop allows you to resize the image when you use “Save for Web” to create your final file in the format you need for your web (gif, jpg, png, etc.)
Why is 75×75 a good size? Read the following reference to find out:
http://www.smashingmagazine.com/2012/02/21/finger-friendly-design-ideal-mobile-touchscreen-target-sizes-2/

Special Use for Email Icon

Special Use for Email Icon

Vary the size and color of the email icon when it’s used with an action prompt. Even better, repeat this version of the email icon on another page with an action prompt.
On this page, the large green email icon appears with a call to place an order. On another page in this website, a similar orange square with similarly-styled text also uses this larger green email icon to prompt the use to email to book an appointment.